Fight For Me

I was listening to the familiar words of Kelly Clarkson again the other day: “I want a love. I want a fire to feel the burn of my desires. I want a man by my side not a boy who runs and hides. Are you gonna fight for me, die for me, live and breathe for me, do you care for me? 'Cause if you don't then just leave.”

Then my mind drifted to the wisdom I had just read in the book Captivating, by John & Stasi Eldridge. The following insight was birthed.

(Ladies, all of your hearts would benefit from this book. And guys, if you really want to know and understand women, to fight for us, this book is for you as well.)

Satan has a special hatred for women. Women are the essence of God’s glorious beauty. Lucifer himself was once so glorious and beautiful and then he tried to steal God’s glory. This was unacceptable and he was cast out of Heaven becoming the Satan we know of today. Satan loathes women because we are what he can never be: BEAUTIFUL. (Yes, you are!) He can’t stand to see us manifest God’s radiant beauty. So, he lies to us and entangles us in the cycle of lies: “You’re not worthy.” “You’re not special.” “You aren’t worth fighting for.” “You will be alone.” “No one wants you.” “You are alone...all alone”

Does this sound familiar ladies? We have all felt this way at some point. We have all sobbed because these feelings were overwhelming. And at least once (probably more often then we have courage to admit), we believed it! How heartbreaking.

And then we settled.

It is the sickness that causes the “Mr. Right Now,” symptom. We long for someone to validate our worthiness. To call us special. To bring us companionship. To end our loneliness. To FIGHT for us!

It is in our God given deepest desires to unveil beauty, to be romanced, and to play an irreplaceable role in an adventure. Like a fairy tale…to be rescued, to be fought for.

But did he fight for you? Or just maybe we fought so hard to attain this affirmation of our self worth that we did all the fighting? I know I have done this. It is time that the men in our lives fight for us! And honestly, at their deepest desire, men long for this battle, to fight, to conquer; it is in their God given nature. And their temptation to give up and to give in is the lie that Satan encourages them to believe.

We must wait for the man who is willing to fight for us! You see men fear failure. They cringe and get angered at the thought of not being able to provide and answer or solution. This is how they often view women: a problem that can’t be solved. They wouldn’t risk the failure of getting into our world and not being able to fix it. So, they don’t try.

Men, God didn’t commission you to do the fixing! So buck up and be brave! Fight for me! Fight for my acknowledgement, my friendship, a place in my life. And then once that is earned, fight for my affection, my trust in you, my time with you. Then, fight to earn a place in my heart. And finally above all, fight to get into and understand my world, my heart, my soul, and once you do this, fight to stay there!